deputydawg
Lieutenant Commander
- Joined
- Aug 29, 2004
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I know what I am going to do with this situation, but it is a hard situation for me.<br />Where I work one of the office staff is a good friend of mine for 9 years. Her son is my partner working the same department. Her husband used to be on the board of supervisors, and is a fairly good man in most respects. <br />Here's the problem.<br />Last summer the family found the husband had fondled one of his granddaughters (not my partners child). I think she was in her early teens. When the family found out they tried to handle it within the family by forcing grandad into counseling. (I thought he did this voluntarily and respected him for that but now know it was forced by his family). Well someone in the family reported it to the State Police. Eventually he was arrested for 8 counts of sexual assault on children. Last week he plead guilty to a plea bargain of 3 counts. His explination for pleading guilty was to keep the children from being drug into court.<br />Now for the real problem. His wife and my good friend left me a memo at the office. She asked me and everyone else working here if we could write a letter to the court on his behalf telling what kind of man he is outside of the charges. I know he is a decent man on the outside, attends church every sunday and is very active, cares about his community, a very hard worker for his age. BUT he deserves to be punished for what he has done other than the embarassment of getting caught. As most of you know I kind of specialize in investigating these cases, and have interviewed many mnay children victims of this kind of case. I have also interviewed many adults who were victims in their childhood. I can not in any way forgive this man or write a letter for him. I want to help his wife who is afraid of being left alone if he goes to the big house, but can't do it. He is not a predator who will seek little children, but is still disgusting for what he has done and needs to be punished. <br />Now the problem, how to tell my friends I will not be writing a letter of support to help this man get a lighter sentence? It is not like this was an accident that happened and he regrets it, it was an intentional act no matter what the excuses.<br />Also I am kind of angry at her for even asking me this. She knows I would do anything to help her, but this is too far.