Guessing young adult kids text back rather than call?

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ezbtr

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Kind of annoying, although my middle girl 34 w/ 18 mo old son calls MORE than the other two, 36 oldest girl almost NEVER especially when there is a new boyfriend in the picture., 24 yr son (he actually is super busy and at times does reply back to group texts and coincidentally "owes" me $1200 and ghosted me for 6 mos, we talked about that but of course he hasn't DONE anything about it) boy, all the help I've given then especially the boy who grad from college 18 mos ago (haven't seen a diploma, apparently online he said??) but at least they are supporting themselves decently, just annoying, BUT now I spend my money on ME :)
 

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Mine are the same, but to be honest, I prefer texting. I just wish my old fingers could type as fast as my daughters!
 

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All kids are different. One texts only. One texts mostly. One texts almost daily and calls 2-3 times a week. First 2 have families and jobs. Last one is a senior in college and is interning with NASA. All busy in their own way and very accomplished. Proud of all of them.
 

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can someone please make sense of this texting rather than talking thing happening these days.
i don't get it , i make 1 , 2 min or less phone call that covers the same ground as 20 text messages.
2 min phone call V 40 min of texting + time waiting for reply's , ? what am i missing here ...
 

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can someone please make sense of this texting rather than talking thing happening these days.
i don't get it , i make 1 , 2 min or less phone call that covers the same ground as 20 text messages.
2 min phone call V 40 min of texting + time waiting for reply's , ? what am i missing here ...
A txt is far less intrusive and more efficient than a phone call.

I'm a Director of Sales. Don't have a land line in my office. Don't want or need one. Everything is done via text, email or Teams meeting.

Can sit in a meeting and have a conversation with a Service engineer or a customer w/o excusing myself from a meeting to answer a phone call. Also have a record of the conversation if I need to remind myself of the conversation
 

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can someone please make sense of this texting rather than talking thing happening these days.
i don't get it , i make 1 , 2 min or less phone call that covers the same ground as 20 text messages.
2 min phone call V 40 min of texting + time waiting for reply's , ? what am i missing here ..
You don't need to reply right away if you are busy, You get time to think about your reply if you are not sure what to say, you can ignore if you don't want to reply.
 

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"Young adult kids"? HA! Both of my parents, who are both around 75, virtually insist on texting. I can't even remember the last time I got a phone call from either of them.

Me, at the ripe old age of 40, HATES discussions via texting. I've been this way since texting became a "thing" 25 years ago, though thankfully it was limited then due to getting charged per text.

I see the utility of it in single messages, as in "I'm running late"...or "Meet me at the dock at 6", "Make sure to bring the sammiches", "Call me when you get a chance", etc. But 20+ texts back and forth is just annoying, largely because people generally want to do this when I'm busy with something else, usually something involving dirty/greasy things too. I can talk and do other things at the same time easily with either a headset or speakerphone...but texting and packing bearings at the same time...not so much.
 

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IMO, texting as its place - for info not needed right away
like any communication - if you know your audience, adjust accordingly

However, some times there'll be lots of back-and-forth. That's when a phone call is called-for. To me, the other part of this era of many communications methods - is that people on either end of a phone call forget that messages can be accessed any time if a phone can't, or shouldn't be, answered immediately.
 

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I text WAY more than I call....easier and faster.

I can look back at conversations in case I forgot what we were talking about with text.

My 87 year old mom would text me more than she called before she died if she had a quick question for me. I did visit her at least 3 times a week so we did have a lot of face to face time.
 

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i use that when i'm driving, never otherwise, but thats an idea......
Sometimes it says stuff you did NOT say, so double check before sending, LMAO!!!! I have almost got in trouble a few times! :)
 
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I'll go you one better - you're face to face with someone and they halt the conversation to take a phone call. Any phone call. Lol. The personal electronic device trumps everything. My dad used to do that cr@p. Don't see him all that much, so it's not a big deal.

I prefer text/e-mail. Never been a phone call guy. I've gotta have a keyboard too, none of this 100mph thumb stuff that some of them can do, lol.
 

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I've participated in a number of interviews at my job. One thing I always ask is "What's your preferred comm method?" Too much experience with people who don't or won't read e-mails, IMs. And there is a LOT of important info. IMO, that comes down via those methods.
 

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3 text messages i have stored in my phone :
sorry i missed your call/calls ,? what was it about.
call me back when you are free.
ill call you back in a bit.

one thing i will never do is send more than 3 texts in a row for the same conversation , this is why i have an EMAIL option on my phone , to me ""personally "" if you cant call me or email to discus something , i really don't want to know about what you have to say.

why would i bother with playing text tag like a teenager on a kiddy iphone when I'm trying to make a business transaction with someone,
i find it so much more "" professional "" to email documents , MMS photos , and speak ( yes speaking is actually a thing humans do) with people.

hence: i can hands free a phone call > go to my cloud find and send you an email document , PDF or other wise presentation , take a pic of my ugly head so you can see who you are talking to and send it MMS all at the same time as i am chatting with a client , hell i can even videocall should i choose that option.

go kiddys play with your iphones and POS intrusive samsung galaxy phones.
 

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As far as the kids, both mine are adults in their 40’s will answer my calls 99% of the time and I do the same. Was never a big on phone calls even before text. Text is just another tool to communicate and has its place.
 

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I find texting to be useful for simple things, I'm not going to explain how to rebuild your engine over a text session.
 
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