Facebook parenting (tough love)

[bigdee]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

I called him a Knucklehead, not a Redneck..... because I'm a Redneck, but i try not to be a knucklehead... LOL

OK then,how would you as a redneck handle this situation? I done alot of questionable things when I was raising my kids and if had been exposed to the internet I would have been crucified like this guy.......but you know what,parenting is between the parent and child,period.
Most people my age have made it through thier child years just fine. We took our punishment and NEVER questioned why...parents were always right, period. Back then no one would dare tell you how you should raise your child unless they wanted to pick a fight.
This guy warned his daughter on the first offense and told her that if she done it again something bad was going to happen....he did not go on a rant and rage....he carried out what he promised and he stated very clearly why. I think she loves her dad and did not really mean the things she wrote on facebook but children do these kind of things. He just nipped it in the bud, and good for him. His daughter may not realize it yet but someday she will be very grateful for him.

 

[joewithaboat]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

OK then,how would you as a redneck handle this situation? I done alot of questionable things when I was raising my kids and if had been exposed to the internet I would have been crucified like this guy.......but you know what,parenting is between the parent and child,period.
Most people my age have made it through thier child years just fine. We took our punishment and NEVER questioned why...parents were always right, period. Back then no one would dare tell you how you should raise your child unless they wanted to pick a fight.
This guy warned his daughter on the first offense and told her that if she done it again something bad was going to happen....he did not go on a rant and rage....he carried out what he promised and he stated very clearly why. I think she loves her dad and did not really mean the things she wrote on facebook but children do these kind of things. He just nipped it in the bud, and good for him. His daughter may not realize it yet but someday she will be very grateful for him.

Times have definitely changed that's for sure. You could make a good argument either way better or worse. Kids today seem to have a lack of respect for adults around them in general. I'm sure the generation of adults before my generation thought the same thing.

I was raised to say yes sir/mam and no sir/mam. I only had to cross my Father one time as a kid to learn where the line was. I knew where it was and knew that i would get my a** whipped if i crossed it. It worked for me. Today you could probably loose you kid for that type of discipline.

I went to catholic grade schools and i think that had a lot to do with my growing up and knowing right from wrong. Not that i always did what was right, but i usually understood it was wrong. I was raised with brothers, I now have only girls! My wife laughs and says God is testing me. Girls are very different that's for sure. I have restricted phones, computer, etc. from my oldest Daughter but cant imagine destroying her computer with a firearm. I think making the same video and dropping it off at Goodwill or something would have given the same disciplinary effect of loosing it. I'm very pro gun by the way!!

It might have been the very thing he needed to get her attention, lets hope it works out for Him and Her!

 

[aspeck]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

I done alot of questionable things when I was raising my kids and if had been exposed to the internet I would have been crucified like this guy.......but you know what,parenting is between the parent and child,period.

Ding! Ding! Ding! And we have a winner!

It is not as much WHAT he did, as HOW he did it. And yes, there are merits to doing the punishment in front of the group that saw the act, but social media is not the place to air dirty laundry. I don't have a problem with the punishment, or even recording the punishment for her to see. It is the posting of it for the world to see that belittles HIM and HIS DAUGHTER. Private family time thing between the parents and the child ... no problem at all.

If my kids act up in a public setting, I am not afraid to discipline them in that same public setting, but the discipline has to match the setting. This is what I see as wrong with the whole deal.

 

[rivermouse]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

You don't need to tell me about child raising. My wife has been a teacher for the last 45 years and has seen firsthand what happens when you take disipline away from teachers and parents. Opinionated administrators and child pyschologists (most don't have kids of thier own) have interfered with the way we raise children. Like my wife says, you can't raise or disipline kids when opinionated people get in the way.

I know from where you speak. My wife just retired after 32 years of teaching in public schools . Maybe it is time for the little lady to retire and no longer have to deal with a losing battle....retirement is great.

 

[bigdee]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

I know from where you speak. My wife just retired after 32 years of teaching in public schools . Maybe it is time for the little lady to retire and no longer have to deal with a losing battle....retirement is great.

She is getting close. The first time some one crosses her she will probably throw in the towel....that is OK though because Lake Tillery is calling me!! She is the teacher of the year so they turn a blind eye on her methods.....she teaches "old school" and it works!

 

[idonthaveaname]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

Nothing has ever been resolved by violence. Sure, I have popped a bottom or two, and raised my voice but discharging a deadly weapon, INTO THE GROUND of all places (although dramatic), is just stupid and proves this man has no brains. A video for youtube is just ego talking. Personally, I think the guy is an idiot and this could escalate out of control. I feel his pain, but there are better and smarter alternatives.

 

[greenbush future]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

What lesson will she carry for the rest of her life? I sure don't see anything of value, or anything I woulod care to pass on either. The "try" part, may be what you are observing, but again vidio tapping yourself shooting a expensive laptop is as ignorant as the day is long and provides nothing of value to "pass on". Then you feel the urge to publicly embarrass yourself and the child, that's a lesson no one needs, but we can laugh at the shear ignorance, and do. And trust me, "tough love" would serve her better then shooting a laptop. Last time I checked they cost big $$, which doesnt grow on tree's and sets a pathetic example to anyone. Guess it's easy for me to armchair this one.

 

[JB]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

Clear demonstration of the evil of Facebook. . . the end of privacy and the "need" to garner attention to the worst in us.

The daughter's outburst was evidence of what a lousy parent he is, and his response underlined it.

 

[jasoutside]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

Clear demonstration of the evil of Facebook.

Nah, Facebook isn't evil, only what folks do with it is. They have a choice. No different that iboats eh, JB

(yes, I'm totally anti Fbook, so I hear what you are saying)

 

[bigdee]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

oh, he did the right thing but his mistake was putting it on the internet. I have done similiar things and I have two of the most loving and productive kids a father could ask for.....opinions are just that,they carry no weight or value and just get in the way,frankly put it is no one's business.
No matter how good a parent you are kids can still get out of control and sometimes it takes an understanding parent to do what is necessary to get the kid on the right path. I wish my parents had been a little more tough on me because I always took the easy way when I thought I could get away with it. You know,everyone comments and appreciates southern hospitalty....could the reason be that we were raised on the Bible & the Belt? My wife is an educator and knows more than most people about parenting and has seen a demise in disipine in recent years. Seems like society wants us to be friends instead of parents....and the reason for the trouble in our schools is because of the lack of parenting. Right or wrong this guy did make an attempt to be a caring parent. If he had been a knucklehead he could have just went on a sensless rage without any meaning to it. To all the milk toast parents it is your kids that cause my wife to want to pull her hair out!

 

[joewithaboat]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

oh, he did the right thing but his mistake was putting it on the internet. I have done similiar things and I have two of the most loving and productive kids a father could ask for.....opinions are just that,they carry no weight or value and just get in the way,frankly put it is no one's business.
No matter how good a parent you are kids can still get out of control and sometimes it takes an understanding parent to do what is necessary to get the kid on the right path. I wish my parents had been a little more tough on me because I always took the easy way when I thought I could get away with it. You know,everyone comments and appreciates southern hospitalty....could the reason be that we were raised on the Bible & the Belt? My wife is an educator and knows more than most people about parenting and has seen a demise in disipine in recent years. Seems like society wants us to be friends instead of parents....and the reason for the trouble in our schools is because of the lack of parenting. Right or wrong this guy did make an attempt to be a caring parent. If he had been a knucklehead he could have just went on a sensless rage without any meaning to it. To all the milk toast parents it is your kids that cause my wife to want to pull her hair out!

Bigdee,
I think most would agree with you about the lack of parenting affecting the way kids behave today. Your just not going to get the nod on shooting a semi auto pistol at a computer on you tube as a thumbs up way to make a point to a teen.
So now if she gets pissed at her little brother or sister is OK for her to shoot their stuff with a gun!
Never mind he ruined a perfectly good computer that he claims to have just spent money on, Duh! That alone makes it a dumb action.
By the way I'm not trying to change your mind, its OK if we agree to disagree.
Also i lived up North for about 7 years, there are rednecks up there to. I think we called them Hicks ... LOL

 

[bigdee]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

Bigdee,

So now if she gets pissed at her little brother or sister is OK for her to shoot their stuff with a gun!
Never mind he ruined a perfectly good computer that he claims to have just spent money on, Duh! That alone makes it a dumb action.
By the way I'm not trying to change your mind, its OK if we agree to disagree.

The computer was just a material thing,his daughter is the priority in this instance....I done something more costly than that and my daughter now has a double major and calls me almost every day. She is grateful to me for standing up to her and putting her life on the right track. There is no cookie cutter method to raise a child, every child is different and has to be handled in a unique way. The same punishment would not have worked on my other daughter. Was this guy right or wrong....simple answer is unless you know this family you can't judge. The thing that irks me is people are too quick to judge others without first looking at themselves.

 

[bruceb58]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

The thing that irks me is people are too quick to judge others without first looking at themselves.

OK. Looking at myself right now......OK. I am done. I still wouldn't make a video of me shooting a laptop and posting it on Youtube, no matter what the circumstances.

 

[dingbat]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

The computer was just a material thing,his daughter is the priority in this instance....I done something more costly than that and my daughter now has a double major and calls me almost every day. She is grateful to me for standing up to her and putting her life on the right track. There is no cookie cutter method to raise a child, every child is different and has to be handled in a unique way. The same punishment would not have worked on my other daughter. Was this guy right or wrong....simple answer is unless you know this family you can't judge. The thing that irks me is people are too quick to judge others without first looking at themselves.

Way over the top senstive in the defense of a situation and someone they supposedly don't know. Is that you Tommy?

 

[bigdee]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

Way over the top senstive in the defense of a situation and someone they supposedly don't know. Is that you Tommy?

That is silly. Nope I do not know this guy and that is the reason I cannot judge him.....is methods are none of my business. The only thing that we have in common is the area we live in.

 

[bruceb58]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

That is silly. Nope I do not know this guy and that is the reason I cannot judge him.....is methods are none of my business. The only thing that we have in common is the area we live in.

Sounded from your post#50 that you knew him.

He is a good father, his daughter is a good girl and the Jordan families are well respected here.

 

[bigdee]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

Sounded from your post#50 that you knew him.

He is well known and active in the community but I do not know him personally

 

[bruceb58]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

If you don't know him personally how can you say he is a good father then?

 

[Limited-Time]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

If you don't know him personally how can you say he is a good father then?

Good question. Though it seem every one here is judging the man on a single action. I'm certain every one here has an action or actions in their past that would get them flamed as much or worst than the misguided father.

 

[bigdee]

Re: Facebook parenting (tough love)

Good question. Though it seem every one here is judging the man on a single action. I'm certain every one here has an action or actions in their past that would get them flamed as much or worst than the misguided father.

Oh Lord,let me explain. For those that are not familiar with the rural south it might be hard to understand but the community knows everyone and everyone is a part of the community. This is a VERY rural area with mostly farms and horses and very friendly people.