Facebook parenting (tough love)

[JRJ]

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Silly I think. As mentioned, a 12ga would have been more appropriate for the intended drama.

By age 16, my sons had their own guns. I wonder if his daughter does?

 

[southkogs]

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Mixed feelings here. I can understand this man's frustrations, and his anger with his ingrate daughter. I'm fine with firm and even harsh discipline on a kid who needs it (she obviously does), and even have no real issue with blasting the laptop (and kinda' agree - 12GA would've added a little more panache) ...

... but ...

Dad came across as immature and provoking in my opinion. In the short run - he makes his point. In the long run - nothing. Unless he has a plan of re-programming his spoiled rotten kid (which he most likely has some hand in allowing in the first place) that is constructive (as opposed to combative), this video is a crass weapon. And now his daughter will start seeking a bigger weapon.

I've got two girls. Both teenagers now, and I've got a great relationship with them. They're still kids, but for the most part they are respectful, grateful and honoring. I hope this guy doesn't lose out on the opportunity to restore that kind of relationship with his girl.

 

[woodsyfeller]

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Wow lucky kid, I would of gotten my arse beat with with a belt .

When I was a kid there were not stupid mind games you have to play nowadays to discipline children.

Sounds simplistic and tough ,but guess what ,you knew to toe the line or hell to pay if you didnt.

 

[tpenfield]

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I've got two girls. Both teenagers now, and I've got a great relationship with them. They're still kids, but for the most part they are respectful, grateful and honoring. I hope this guy doesn't lose out on the opportunity to restore that kind of relationship with his girl.

Me too, thank the Lord. . . my daughters are in college now.

I think what this guy in the video does not seem to understand is that he is trying to put out a fire by pouring gasoline on it . . . I can only image the next round in this fight.

 

[aspeck]

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It seems like the daughter has learned well from the dad ... same type of language, same disrespecting attitude, same immature ranting.

The first time I liked the video, but the more I watch it and think about it, it sure seems counter-productive to me.

 

[bruceb58]

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I think this video may help other "daughters" when they look at it. Will at least maybe make them think a little. I doubt its going to help this guy's though.

 

[dingbat]

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He lost that kid a few years ago in my opinion.

I totally agree. Had he done is job earlier; it never would have gotten to this point.
His immature response to the situation speaks volumes of his parenting and social skills, or lack there of.

 

[bigdee]

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I LOVE IT!!!!! The only thing I worry about is if he's gonna get popped for shooting a firearm in city limits....
My oldest came quite close to this years ago, is why her mom wanted her to live with me, scared the crap outta daughter, she would'nt move up here, because i would def do something like he did!
PS - and yes, discipline starts at an EARLY age, so you dont have to fight it when kids get older, but hey we dont really know the whole story on that, dad divorced, remarried etc.

I live near this guy and NO he will not get charged with anything. The Abelmarle police gave him kudos and the Child protection agency investgated the family and found them to be normal.....we have common sense around here!!

 

[rivermouse]

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Parents are becoming more and more angry that internet use by their kids is taken out of their control. They have a right to control what their kids do period.When the kid starts driving and has her "habit" and brain focus in one hand and the steering wheel in the other he may end up having to shoot the car and the cell phone.to stop it and keep control....I think constant internet use is the symptom of a brain addiction or the cause of it.

 

[kei9th]

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he paid for the laptop, bang. he installed and worked on his laptop, bang. daughter wrote crap online and was disrespectful, bang. mom was disrespected, bang. was told before and even punished, bang. daughter tried to hide how she acts around her friends, bang. don't want to do chores and want privileges, bang. 15 is hard to get a job but not impossible, bang. she eats food, sleeps in a warm house, and seems to have nice things other than the laptop, not appreciative, bang. calls a person who is doing "help" around the house a maid, bang. sorry to say but making sure the coffee was ready for the morning, by doing the setup before i went to school was something i had to do took maybe two minutes. (always did it the night before.) bang. do i think the girl was humiliated in front of the whole world? maybe, on the flip side did she make her parents look like lowlife assholes to the whole world, yes, absolutely. BANG! did i run out of ammo in the 1911? i don't know i don't own one. all privileges and anything that makes her life fun and happy for a few months gone, even to the point that there is no outside communications with anyone that is not in school with her. and that is only during school hours. if i was to write something like that not only would i be sleeping in the barn for the summer, i would be carrying two 5 gallon water buckets up and down a hill for the entire summer. she got off light. the girl is grounded for three months and will not get another personal laptop until she buys her own. oh ill be crying myself to sleep over this. spare the rod spoil the child. i was 16 and dumb, disrespecting a Italian mom in my household, i wish it was just a few bullets in a laptop.

 

[tkrfxr]

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I don't think the Dad and the daughter will ever have a good relationship.....It seems she never appreciated what was given to her at home, and she seemed to resent having any resposibilities...the failure rests on the parents....

Children seem to learn respect when they earn the things they get or receive at home...they must earn their place in the home....with good behavior.....

PARENTING IS HARD WORK. Parenting can fail, for many reasons...

 

[jbjennings]

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My best friend's mother had a way of making both he and me (my own mother died when I was 3 so my buddy basically shared his mom with me) feel like such totally worthless scumbags any time we did something wrong that we always remembered it and rarely made the same mistake twice. I don't think the "getting even" trick works nearly as well as making the kid feel awful for such a rotten thing as she did. I lied to my dad about going swimming in a pond with my buddies when I was a young feller, and him not speaking to me for a couple of weeks was far more memorable than the spanking that I expected to receive.
I think this dad would have gotten better results by a different method.
She won't likely forget it, though........:redface:

 

[KDAVID1]

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He's a pretty good shot

 

[joewithaboat]

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Kids do what you do not what you say....

As he sat down to lecture all of her Facebook friends all i could see was the cigarette for the first minute or so ...Lol

I understand his frustration but he's a knucklehead!

 

[bigdee]

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Is there really a perfect parent? I find fault with all those people that criticize him when they probably couldn't handle the situation any better.
It is tough being a parent today. When I was a kid we respected adults and all authority and did not have the social media to offset our way of thinking. Tough love earns respect.....when I listen to adults talk about their childhood,they don't brag about all the things that their parents gave them .....they affectionately talk about the TOUGH discipline and learning HARD lessons in life. Parenting should be private and without social intervention.

 

[halfmoa]

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From the content of her post it sounds to me like the dad needs a housekeeper instead of a daughter....not that what the daughter did was right.

 

[lncoop]

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There's an outstanding parenting book available. It's pretty old, but it's the best one out there. Think he needs to read it.

 

[drrpm]

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Raising children can be hard. Every one of them is different and techniques that work for one child aren't guarranteed to work on another. I have 3 daughters, 2 teens and a preteen and the middle one can be quite a handfull. Our current descriptive word for her is infuriating. She is a good student and athlete but can be quite arrogant, rude and ungrateful at times. Her computer is currently in my posession for facebook misuse, but I wouldn't take my gun out and shoot it.
People have the misconception that if you treat a child in X fashion there will be Y result. That works with animals but not people. Animals reliably behave in ways that will get them a reward, but people will sometimes just behave in an F-you manner even when its obviously against their own best interest. Usually this moderates as the brain continues to mature, but some people never get it.

 

[jasoutside]

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I kinda like that guy.

I'll say this though, the swearing that he had throughout was counterproductive. I also think pulling his sidearm was counterproductive.

Bummer too as he pretty well had me on his team.

I think I may have tweeked just a little...

Clean up the foul language and run the puter through the log splitter instead...

Whatever happens, I do hope he gets his daughter back as she is certainly on her way out.

 

[jasoutside]

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Thought this was kinda funny...