Here's a basic drawing of the wiring.
Orange comes from that outer lug on the starter and joins the wire going from oil pressure switch to the switch on the relay. That way either the starter or the oil pressure switch can turn on the relay to power the pump.
Purple is battery power.
Red is switchable power from the relay to the pump positive side.
Green ground.
Rick, can you confirm I have everything correct or tell me what is remaining at this point? The 3 prong oil switch is throwing me off a bit (that crude drawing you posted shows two points of contact). I've been putting this off but decided to jump in today. Here is what I have completed:
Relay:
86 - To Oil Pressure Switch P Terminal
(i'm not sure this is correct, I thought 86 had to be connected to battery power)
85 - Grounded to Coil Negative Post
87 - Straight to fuel pump
30 - To Battery Positive with 10 amp fuse in between
87A - unused
Oil Pressure Switch:
P Terminal - connected to 87 on relay
(instruction says run to pump actually, not confident here)
S Terminal - connected to outer Starter Lug
I Terminal - I don't know what to do with this. Most drawings don't mention ignition with marine setups. Instructions and that detailed breakout I posted says go to Ignition.
Pump:
+ terminal is connected to 87 Relay post
- just attached a connector and grounded it to a bolt on the front cover, which is holding the fuel pump bracket
**10 foot of USCG approved marine fuel line just came in so I'm going to head to the hardware store and get some barbed fittings for everything.