Well......after calming down, I got to work ordering what I needed.
I found the lever(good price) and the pin(expensive), but all needed, so I was able to get them at least being OMG.
I also found that for some reason, my new lower shift cable is binding, so pulling the drive again, lol.
The other thing I noticed yesterday is that my ESA doesn't seem to be working. I tested the limit switches and work as they should, I believe (one is NO and one NC). When checking continuity after the ESA module, I don't have any change in state, but that is for a later date., also I will look a bit deeper into the lower unit but I plan on getting a replacement so I just need it to last this year BUT I am hoping its because of the shift cable.
I also have a line on a much less worn controller but first things first
The better news is that the carpet is on its way!