Re: Here's an interesting situation to ponder...
Great points. Job issues with your dad aside: I'd first plant the seeds of the advantages (let them soak in rather than forcing them on her). Then after awhile I'd ask her if there was anything that would make it work from her perspective. It may be flying her back monthly, flying her parents out every couple of months. Season opera, theater, or pro sporting events tickets that you can't afford now. Letting her pick the house of HER dreams. Negotiate a little, but only if it's absolutly necessary (i.e., give her as much of what she wants as you can comfortably live with). <br /><br />If you come up with terms she can live with make sure you follow through on them.<br /><br />If you push her into it you risk future resentment and relationship issues. But if you can get her involved in coming up with things that would make it work for her, you stand a decent chance of helping her build excitement and support for the opportunity. <br /><br />Plant the seed and see if you can get her to nourish it instead of pushing. That in itself could generate resistance.
Great points. Job issues with your dad aside: I'd first plant the seeds of the advantages (let them soak in rather than forcing them on her). Then after awhile I'd ask her if there was anything that would make it work from her perspective. It may be flying her back monthly, flying her parents out every couple of months. Season opera, theater, or pro sporting events tickets that you can't afford now. Letting her pick the house of HER dreams. Negotiate a little, but only if it's absolutly necessary (i.e., give her as much of what she wants as you can comfortably live with). <br /><br />If you come up with terms she can live with make sure you follow through on them.<br /><br />If you push her into it you risk future resentment and relationship issues. But if you can get her involved in coming up with things that would make it work for her, you stand a decent chance of helping her build excitement and support for the opportunity. <br /><br />Plant the seed and see if you can get her to nourish it instead of pushing. That in itself could generate resistance.