First time returning to Mom's house.

[Tyme2fish]

I'm going to Virginia on Tuesday to try and partially clean out my Mom's house. She passed away on 6/25/2007. This is my first trip there without Mom being there to greet me. I'm already choking up about it.
Kinda tough for a 58 year old man to cry.
The house has been in our family for almost 100 years. My Grandmother and Grandpa lived there. Lots of stuff (mostly junk) to go through.
The really hard part is when I put it up for sale.

 

[Bondo]

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Kinda tough for a 58 year old man to cry

Nope,..... It's Not,........... I was about 48 when it happened.......

The Absolute Hardest thing I ever did was to bury Mom........

The 2nd hardest thing was to clean out the homestead,+ sell it........

It took Gallons of Tears................... Reliving a lifetime of Memories.......

 

[Bob_VT]

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I lost my biological dad and it was tough..... when my first wife past away it was worse...... Just hang in there ....... it is hard to stay focused sometimes

You have our support.

 

[Mark42]

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I still have my parents, but I get emotional when I visit the houses and steets where my grandparents lived. I am still surprised that I experience shortness of breath and a tightness in my chest when I walk past their houses and remember the good old days.

Its been about 20 years since all 4 grandparents are gone.

 

[JB]

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Kinda tough for a 58 year old man to cry.

Any man at any age who is in touch with his heart cries often, T2F.

 

[Tyme2fish]

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Kinda tough for a 58 year old man to cry.
What I meant by that, is everytime I think of walking thru that door my throat tightens up and I start crying.I just can't help it.

 

[12Footer]

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My mom has been gone for 20 years. There are still sights, sounds, smells that make me miss her to tears.

 

[Boomyal]

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Hope there is someone to go with you Tyme2fish. It be extra hard if you had to rattle around your old house alone.

 

[Kenneth Brown]

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Theres absolutely nothing wrong with it. For physical pain I say suck it up and be a man. For emotional pain I say let it out to be a man. God will walk with you in your times of hurt, he will be there for you.

 

[Haut Medoc]

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Theres absolutely nothing wrong with it. For physical pain I say suck it off and be a man. For emotional pain I say let it out to be a man. God will walk with you in your times of hurt, he will be there for you.

Ya might wanna rephrase that, Ken.....

It is a very tough thing to do, & just feels wierd.....
I agree that it would be best not to go it alone.....
Sorry for your loss......

 

[waterinthefuel]

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There is no easy way to deal with losses like that. Three of my 4 grandparents were deceased by the time I was a teenager so loss of life is something I knew all to well as a child. I was at so many funerals before the age of 10 that I knew the layout of the floorplan of the funeral home and us kids would play hide and seek amongst the furniture, so often that one of us one time exclaimed, "Next time we're here, we can bring toy guns and have a shootout." I was too young to understand loss of life, but I did see so many grieving adults that it made a lasting memory in my memory bank.

I know, not proper behavior for a funeral home, but at 6, all those plants and stuff make for awesome hiding spots.

On a more serious note, you cry yourself a river and them jump in a boat and swim down to the lake of recovery. You will always miss her, but if you miss her that much, she was a great mom and that alone is something to smile about. She did her job, you're a successful adult with a family of his own. That's a mom's ultimate goal, so she went to heaven smiling down on you, you do the same for her.

Heaven just inherited a wonderful woman. That is something to rejoice over.

 

[puddle jumper]

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Waterinthefuel nicely put

Tyme2fish sorry to hear about your mom i lost mine when i was 13 and i know
my dad does not have to much longer. Not looking forward to that.
What helped me was only think of the happy times as we went through her belongings. Good luck on your journey.

 

[MikDee]

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So sorry to hear Tyme2fish, my condolences. I lost my Mom in 1987' and lost my Dad in 1980', I was a basket case both times, sometimes fine, sometimes crying my eyes out, that's the way grief goes, I then realized to just go with the flow. I managed to pull though, and get what I needed done at the time, but I miss them both dearly, and try to concentrate on the good times when I think back, and I get some relief, knowing they would be happy for me now. Good Luck, & God Bless Mike D.