Re: Daughter assalted at school(Rant)
Originally posted by RodC:<br /> Terrible situation for sure. The school has more than likely followed policy and there is nothing else they will do. Getting the police involved sounds a little drastic IMO but I'm not in your situation so only you can decide. I don't however agree that home schooling is the solution to a bullying problem. Children will encounter many difficult situations as they grow and they must learn how to deal with them, not run away from them. Isolating them from the general school population IMO is not helping them later in life. Enrole them in self-defence classes. It does wonders for self-esteem, confidence and personal safety. Teach your children how to manage the problem and give them the tools they need to do that.
How you are of the real problem. Bill Gates gave a commencement speech addressing a lot of this same stuff. The feel good, protect from others that the schools and parents cast upon the children
WILL NOT prepare kids for the tough job of being an adult. Whereas home schooling may have it's significant benefits, can you imagine what good could be done for all of the students if the parents actually put that much effort into changing the establishment, not selfishly concentrating only on their children, but on the society as a whole? Don't get me wrong, protect you children and instill in them values. But shouldn't some of those values be a sense of the greater good? Which would be the greater good, yanking your kids out of school and teaching them at home, or working to change the school to a better place for ALL of the students? If you are honest, I think you would chose the latter. <br />When I was in school I was bullied and teased mercilessly. I got beat up regularly. I took up walking 1hr one way instead of riding the bus, so I could miss the pummeling before/after the ride. Did I have a low self-esteem, sure. Did I deal with it, or commit suicide, you know the answer to that. My point is even with adversity, if parents care for their children, their children will survive. My mother went to bat for me once when I got in trouble for beating a kid who tormented me to a bloody pulp. He was routinely beating me up, pushing in the mud, etc. One day I had enough, he started in with me, and I let him have it. I retaliated, the school focussed on me, and my mother was heard all the way out in the hall when she met with the principal. I was never bothered after that. I stood up for myself, my mother stood up for me, and the problem stopped. We moved the next year and the problem started again, new school, new bullies.<br />So get over yourselves. Equip your kids with the skills to cope, and let them live, and learn. Watch them, stay in touch with what is happening to them, and let the live. Home schooling deprives your children of the skills learned out of the classroom in the largest social environment they will experience. Like it or not, a child’s peers are important to their development too. Later in school, how do they have girlfriends/boyfriends, athletics, pep rallies, school dances, Prom, etc? And what if you can’t teach them topics they need to know for a chosen career path? I couldn’t teach or explain trig to my son. And no amount of material can make up for that lack of understanding and mentoring.<br /><br />Now for the original post, DO NOT GIVE UP! This bully needs greater punishment, or else sometime in the future she will really physically harm someone. “I got away with it before, why won’t this time be the same?” And violence only escalates. DO NOT GIVE UP, not for your daughter, or for that matter, for the bully. Who knows, if you stop her bad behavior now, you may be saving her from prison.<br /><br />I’m glad to hear your daughter wasn’t badly hurt. And from her accomplishments she’s pretty perfect. Especially by our current adolescent standards.
