Re: A true story of two teenagers who believe their own fantasy
Johnshan, we are verys similar except in two aspects. I turn 30 this year, and I have a 15 month old daughter.<br /><br />While I'll agree that all kids are quite different, I look in my wife's family as well as my own and there are common threads between the kids of each family. I have one brother and one sister. They grew up with both parents in the house. My parents divorced when I was 11. All three of us are doing well, none of us has ever been in jail or in a serious car accident. We all got into things as kids and my brother was the only one who got "caught" and has a daughter from the experience, however he took the responsibility, they got married, and that daughter is graduating as the Valedictorian of her high school class in a couple months on her way to college. My sister has two chldren that she was blessed with a few years after being married. <br /><br />My wife's sister was married a couple months before the baby arrived. That was 8 years ago and they now have another taht is less than 1.<br /><br />My wife and I were married over 5 years when we tried to have a child and now we have a beautiful little girl. Mom has been a stay at home mom since day 1. <br /><br />My Mom was a stay at home mom until the divorce. My brother's wife was at home until their daughter was at least 5-6.<br /><br />I guess the point is that I have no intention of just hoping my children grow up to be ok. I fully intend to guide them as much as possible. My wife is a stay-at-home for that reason as we've been blessed to be able to do that, but we also tried to set it up that way. My child will be raised as I was. I had freedom within boundries and I would test them, but I knew there were consequences if I crossed them. Lastly, Society will not be raising my children. That's not my job, it's my privelage. Teachers are there to teach, not to babysit, nor will the TV raise them, esp. in the early years. I firmly believe that the early years, say 0-6, heavily influence the way a child will be as a young adult. If that's old fashioned, that's ok by me.<br /><br /><br />All in all, this is only my opinion. It and about $1.00 will get you a cheap cup of coffee most places.<br /><br />JTexas, I'm not pointing this at you,just babblng in general after reading the comments above. From what little I know from your posts, it sounds like you are doing exactly the right thing. There will be some rough sleepless nights and definetly some arguments ahead, but make sure you and Mrs. JTexas are in agreement, hold your ground, and do what you must. It's great that his parents are on board as well and you have a united front. Those kids may walk out of this much more responsible and "grown up" than you could imagine. Best wishes.