Re: Worlds toughest job
... I can't believe a thread that was meant to honor moms has turned into a bashing instead......
I showed up to the party a little late, but I'm kinda' surprised at it too ...
I am calling BS on this. I work full time, travel for work, do laundry, food shop, meal plan, cook, keep up a 100 year old house and work almost every weekend. Stay at home moms have it easy. Most of the ones I know complain about how hard it is after their 2nd glass of white wine on a Tuesday afternoon with the other stay at home moms.
I love how the stay at home mom crowd pretends that I go to work and its some kind of vacation. I socialize all day, go out for lunch, hit the bar on the way home for happy hour all the time my wife is stuck at home working her butt off. In reality from what I have seen and what my friends who have have the wifes that stay at home they have play dates, takes naps when the kid takes naps, watches GMA followed by Kelly and Michel then finishes the morning TV routieen with Rachel Ray, cleans 1/2 the house and leaves the other 1/2 of the house to the husband to deal with after work, makes him run out 2 times a night for something like dish soap, oh and that 1/2 of the house work that is left for the husband does not include changing the oil, fixing the leaking roof or doing lawn work every weekend.
This is a crock. Im not buying in to it. June Cleaver does not exist any more.
I think I see your point, and I sorta' agree: we over elevate things in our society quite a bit. When everybody becomes a hero (policemen, firefighters, soldiers, teachers, moms, etc., etc.) then no one is really a hero (even the guy who bashed his way through a fully involved fire to carry out a small baby or the mom who covered her kids in the closet to save 'em from the tornado damage). To that degree, yeah my day-to-day is as rough as any other out there and sometimes maybe rougher.
But that's not all of the stay-at-home crowd.
The SouthKogs Admiralty has been headquartered at home for almost 20 years. She home schools 3 kids (one about to graduate this year), keeps a garden, is constantly Dr. Mom, watches children for other working moms and oversees command and control for the day-to-day ops of our home (among other stuff I can't quite bring to mind). She's part dietician, part doctor, runs a small laundromat, is a kitchen manager and plays referee with three teenagers. She's beautiful, charming, witty, smart as a whip and truly happy to take on extra work to help out people she comes in contact with (I mean "I'll come over and help you clean your house" extra work).
Frankly - June Cleaver never did, and never could, hold a candle to this gal.
None of it ever happens in a 40 hour work week. She even takes a decent hunk of it with her when we go on vacation. She gets tired and worn out on occasion, but rarely (if ever) gripes in the least. At the end of it: she works at least as hard as I do, getting done the stuff I really couldn't get done without her help. Fortunately, I think she thinks I work hard too and I think she appreciates it. I wouldn't defile it by calling it even a partnership - I think it's bigger than that. She loves being a wife and a mom and busts her chops to be the best she can at it.
... and amazingly she decided to do all that with me.
It ain't walking steel 10 stories in the air. It's not taking client complaints for hours on end. She's not trying to balance a revenue deficit that's crushing the ability to meet payroll, or coordinating the logistics for 1st Cav. But it's a full days work, and it's as emotional as anything else.
In the eyes of her husband and kids: Admiral Southkogs does one of the toughest jobs in the world, and she does it heroically.
