What would you do?

[rwise]

After 24 years with my wife I caught her cheating, and devorced her, final last week. So, if you caught your spouse beeing unfaithful what would you do?

 

[rwise]

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I did try to talk to her but all she would do is get a guilty look on her face and turn away and would not talk. Also I had recently caught up with some small lies, just killed my trust in her. Now I am selling our house (not a home to me) and the 15 acre farm we were going to retire to.

 

[Ron G]

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sorry i know thats painful,to many varibles for me to vote on.

 

[Braxton]

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rwise, good luck to you. you will make it thru this. sorry for what happen to you, but there is always a ray of sunshine. again good luck. Braxton

 

[one more cast]

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I also can not vote. Only you can make that decision.

 

[kenimpzoom]

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Man thats a bummer.<br /><br />Wife and I have an agreement, if one of us cheats, its over period. No discussion. I cant even talk to someone I cant trust. She feels the same way.<br /><br />I have also promised that if our marraige ever gets bad enough that I would consider cheating, I would divorce first before I cheated. I know people change, but there is no need to hurt people by cheating.<br /><br />Ken

 

[rwise]

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Ron I hear you, I did not see it coming.<br /><br />Braxton, yes I will get over it! I am sorting thing out and moving on.<br /><br />OMC I made my decision, she is history.<br /><br />Ken I have never cheated on any woman, and the trust is definitely gone.<br /><br />But hey theres more fish in the sea I am a strong person and I will get through this. Just wanted to here some thoughts from other people, and who better than the fine people here!

 

[kenimpzoom]

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Good luck rwise, I suggest you travel to Thailand where you can take your pick of lovely young ladies willing to marry you. <br /><br />Ken

 

[jtexas]

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sorry to hear it, rwise

 

[neumanns]

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I hope that bridge is not on my road but I also feel it is much more complicated than a,b, or c.<br /><br />And of course, My regards.

 

[rwise]

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Ken, not sure I want to marry again but I am due a vacation!<br /><br />Thanx jtexas<br /><br />neumans, I hope so too! And I agree but I wanted to keep it simple.

 

[KaGee]

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Originally posted by KenImpZoom:<br /> Good luck rwise, I suggest you travel to Thailand where you can take your pick of lovely young ladies willing to marry you. <br /><br />Ken

Russia too! <br /><br />Seriously, so very sorry for the both of you. There will be no winners here.

 

[JasonJ]

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I divorced my first wife for cheating. Once the trust is gone, it is difficult. I tried to make it work, but I just could not help but wonder what (who) she was doing when she left the house. As it turned out, she repeatedly cheated when I took her back. All I was doing was telling her it was okay by taking her back. No more. I don't stress about it, if a person wants to cheat on me, let them. Just hope her new boyfriend has a truck to pick up her crap from the curb...

 

[waterone1@aol.com]

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Amen!!! A couple is a sacred union. If she breaks that union you are better off without her. I am going through hell with my woman right now, at this point, I don't care what she does.....as long as she does it without me.....once the trust is gone...there is nothing else. I will survive, I hope you will too.

 

[SS MAYFLOAT]

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BTDT 3 times! All 3 ex's cheated and that is why they are in the past. Yes, I'm remarried to a wonderful woman who has 3 ex's also. Same situation for her, they cheated on her.<br /><br />So with this relationship it is great. Life has never been this good for either of us.<br /><br />I would say prior to the 70's, men was always known as the ones to be the cheaters. Seems to be the other way around now days.<br /><br />Has anyone ever watched Maury? To me it is disgusting to see how many young women go through so many DNA tests and still not know who the kids dad is. And how many of those kids are we paying for with our taxes?<br /><br />Liars, thieves, and cheats I have no use for. Trust is something that is getting harder to find each passing day.

 

[rwise]

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Kagee, I agree, the kids may be grown but they were still hurt too! (they were living with us at the time) So it's not just her and I that were affected by this.<br /><br />Jasonj LOL, he never showed up to help her, she even makes the kids call her before they can come over so she can run him off! (must be embarrassed by the new boyfriend) They worst part for me was/is I trusted her more than I even knew, and she let all of us down.<br /><br />waterone, I will get through this, I have family and friends that have/are there for me. I agree 100% no trust, no marriage, it's definitely over for good!!! And like you I don't care what she does or who she does it with.<br /><br />SS Mayfloat, sounds like you finally found a good woman. I hope I do someday, until then, when I get everything taken care of (without her help) I'll start looking around. Ok my eyes have been opened and I am talking with more girls every day. It seems the word is getting around, Richard is available!<br /><br />Thanx to all who voted, it's about what I expected. And thanx for the support and kind words, may none of you ever have to go through this (again).<br /><br />Richard

 

[alden135]

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What comes around, goes around...<br /><br />My ex wife was cheating on me with a guy at her work. The jerk took great pleasure in rubbing it in my face. <br /><br />I finally told him the best punishment I could give out was to let him have her. About a year after they had a kid and married, she left him for his boss.

 

[Nos4r2]

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Originally posted by alden:<br /> What comes around, goes around...<br /><br />My ex wife was cheating on me with a guy at her work. The jerk took great pleasure in rubbing it in my face. <br /><br />I finally told him the best punishment I could give out was to let him have her. About a year after they had a kid and married, she left him for his boss.

Funny, I said the same to my ex when she went off with a 'friend'-she thought I'd get mad enough to hit him. I thought him having her was punishment enough...<br /><br />Sure enough, he found her in bed with someone else.

 

[pjc]

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Interesting divorce site. For us Men

 

[rosco_59]

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Been there, done that.Married 31 years then, My first wife cheated on me for a while. I tried to talk and went to counceling and she still went out with her boyfriend so I went my own way. I have remarried to a wonderful lady. There is always hope. Good luck to you.