rules of etiquette

[NOSLEEP]

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If the captain ain't happy. <br />Ain't nobody happy.

 

[mellowyellow]

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LOL NS! <br />rules of the boat:<br />1)the captain is always right.<br />2)if the captain is wrong, see rule #1

 

[Link]

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My fishing partner (Keith) of 24 years and I do take people with us from time to time<br /><br />Until 94 I would have considered your rules of etiquette to be basic common sense. However<br /><br />1994 We invited a co-worker. He said SURE! What do I need to bring.<br />We told him a fishing license and what ever you want to eat and drink as we were going to be on the water all day. Everything else is already on the boat.<br />Great day fishing and on the way home my partner pulls into a little cafe to grab a bite to eat and celebrate our friend catching his first fish! <br />He didnt want to order anything... Turned out he didn't have a penny on him. No Cash, No credit cards no checkbook!! A 35 year old man! Hadn't planned on buying him dinner <br /><br />#16 Tell your guests to bring a normal ammount of spending cash! Duh!<br /><br />However watching a 35 year old man catch his first fish was a lot of fun

 

[Capn Mike]

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I usually turn down any offer of money (we usually have short trips) though I sometimes suggest guests bring some lunch. Think I had a run of cheapos...for almost a year, none offered to pay. My brother is the worst: I ran a 75 mile round trip, and only an offer by the other guest shamed him into chipping in.<br />Another guest from hell: broke a cup holder, lost 4 lures, dropped a net into the water (barely got turned around in time to retreive it), then gathered up the remainder of the beer and walked off without offering to pay anything, clean the boat, or carry his own garbage. I don't even talk to the guy anymore, let alone ask him fishing again. <br />Even made my brother look good....

 

[waterinthefuel]

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Have closed face reels for those "first time" fisherman. Open face reels and newbie=birdnest.

 

[Bco128]

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ive been "fairly lucky" i have 2 good fishing buddies one cant catch fish so i have good intertainment one can catch so i know ill get a fish luch.ive gone fishing with other people but just never feel comfortable.i take my kids and family but other than that ill go alone.my biggest peeve is being on time.when im ready to go dangit im ready to go. if you not their im not waitin.left good friends a few times when they were late.now one or the other pick the other up.no more problem

 

[KeltonKrew]

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I've been almost fortunate.....I have one friend (that I do 99% of my fishin' with) that asks (almost demands that the bill was so he can pay 50%)<br /><br />Took another guy....hooked up on a lot of fish, and the guy never ever offered a penny.....<br /><br />Granted, I never asked this guy for any money, but you would think that after I PAID for the live bait, fuel, launch fees, etc, that he would have offered....<br /><br />Granted, he's never been fishin' with me again....but my GREAT coonass buddy will go fishin' with me anytime.

 

[kenimpzoom]

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Here is my opinion. I dont want to start any argument, just giving a perspective of the way I was brought up.<br /><br />If I dont know the guy good enough to know what his responses to 1-14 are, then I dont invite him. I dont want to go in a boat with a casual friend, this is for closer buddies. If I want to bring him fishing, I go drink a few at the bar with him to get to know him. I dont want some psycho freakout abandon ship when a 3 ft wave hits us.<br /><br />And as for paying, if someone invites me to go fishing, I assume the inviter will pay for all. I may make a token offer to pay, but expect it to be refused. If the inviter says before you go, can you help out with money, I will be glad to. So in other words, I make sure about the money before I get on the boat.<br /><br />If I ask the boat owner to take me fishing, then I assume I will pay for AT LEAST my fair share.<br /><br />Ken

 

[jtexas]

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just curious, kenimpzoom, do you find it offensive if your host takes you up on your token offer to share the cost? I mean, isn't that a bit like pointing a loaded gun, don't do it unless you're prepared to pull the trigger? <br /><br />Around here, common courtesy requires at least 3 rounds of offers & declines, like this: "here, let me pay for that" / "no thanks, you're my guest" / "no, I insist" / "no, I insist" / "well, if you insist" / "no problem, I got it" / "I'll get it next time."<br /><br />If you really want to pay, make sure your host has used the term "insist" before you use it.

 

[Capn Mike]

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JTex, you're right. It's expected that the first time or two the host will demur....then "let" the guest chip in.<br />The guys that chap my hide are the ones who don't even offer the first time.<br /><br />Is the culture in Arlington that different from Houston?!

 

[kenimpzoom]

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No I am not offended, just dont expect him to take any money, unless we previously talked about it. I wouldnt think down on the guy or anything if he did take it.<br /><br />But really I get all the money issues taken care of before I get in the boat. Just something my parents tought me and it stuck.<br /><br />Ken

 

[jtexas]

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Is the culture in Arlington that different from Houston?!

No, Cap'n Mike, it's about the same - like ken, I'd be surprised if the host actually put out his hand in response to an offer, unless there's already an understanding. If I get the opportunity to pay for something sometimes I do, like maybe boat gas directly at the station, or picking up the lunch tab, whatever. <br /><br />One thing for sure, ken's right about not inviting someone until you're sure you can stand to spend the better part of a day with 'em.<br /><br />Of course if your question is about geographical culture, I'd have to say they have more of a south-of-the-border feel down in Houston, and I really like that. That and a winning baseball team are about the extent of cultural differences from my point of view.

 

[catmania]

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I would like to add one, its along the same lines as #13, but offer to help clean up afterward, something as simple as spraying the decks down and rinsing off the salt water, or washing the fish guts off the decks really is appreciated.(and might even get you invited back)<br /><br />Usually after getting back to dock everyone just bolts leaving the poor owner to scrub and clean all alone. <br /> <br />OOHHH and dont wear black souled shoes!! I had a friend who didnt think about it and wore black sandels out on my boat one night to see the fireworks, (couldnt see the mess his feet were leaving cause it was dark) the next morning I called him up and invited him down for a 3 hour scrubathon. He came and helped so he is still my friend.

 

[Capn Mike]

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Arghhh! You're right about the shoes...for some reason, some of the guys who fish streams wear the same shoes on boat trips they'd wear hiking Everest. I had a guy try to climb on board wearing Danner elk boots. Made him take them off and go bare foot; fortunatly, it was semi-warm weather and not 41 in March. Now, I add "non-marking shoes" to the pre-trip list of do's & don'ts.

 

[Throbbin Rods]

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We found a method that worked real well about 20 years ago. When we go on a long venture, everyone puts $20 in the ashtray of the truck. All gas and oil etc for the boat and truck as well as bait comes out of that. When the ashtray is empty we all throw another $20 in. Any money left over when we get home goes to the truck owner/boat owner to cover wear and tear. Works good for us

 

[Mikevn1500]

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If my Dad goes he dont pay for nothing,I'll even buy him grub and a few cold ones after. He more than earned that(I have a very cool and hard working old man).Now when me and my Brother in law get togeather its 50-50 on Gas(truck and boat)bait,and beer after.If its his truck and boat I'll buy him lunch/dinner,he will do the same if its my equipment.We will each clean our own boats.This has worked for 10 years for both our fishing and our quad riding excursions.If I take anyone else they always offer to pay something,that is I can not remember ever taking someone who did not offer to cover something....

 

[NathanY]

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Well this is how it works with my fishing partner and I, as well with my Tourney Partner and I:<br /><br />If we go out in his boat, he pays for gas for boat and truck, I buy breakfast, lunch, drinks and snacks. It is the same if I take my rig. <br /><br />I would never ask anyone that I "invite" to go fishing with me to pay for anything other than what they want to eat or drink. But, if they ask me if I will take them, then they will have to pull their weight.<br /><br />I personally think it is wrong to INVITE someone and then say, "Oh yeah, you owe me this amount to cover trip charges." <br /><br />If you invited me over to your house for dinner, would you say that I need to pay you for the meal?<br /><br />If you cant afford to pay for everything dont INVITE someone to go along with you.<br /><br />Notice about INVITE , This means that you asked them to accompany you, this does not mean that they came and asked you.