JasonJ
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- Aug 20, 2001
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My wife informed me of something I never realized, and it was kind of alarming. I talk to her about everything, and the goings-on on this forum is one of the things I tell her about. It used to be I would tell her about someones boat, things like that. Now, I end up telling her about the subject matter that has caused so much agruments and tension on this forum. My wife and I went through a rough bout of arguing this week, and we couldn't figure out why. It was always about some stupid junk that would get blown out of proportion. <br /><br />Well, yesterday I was telling her about stuff on this forum again and she stopped me and told me that when I have talked about this forum lately I have been getting louder, my shoulders have been squaring back, my entire demeanor changes to an aggressive state. We realized that after I spend time here, I am ramped up, and then her and I end up arguing because I still have that energy to expend.<br /><br />What this had made me realize is that if this is affecting me in this way, and actually causing turmoil in my household, then I need to not participate in any part that causes me tension. I am not going to quit Iboats, but I have decided that I must, for my own sake as well as my relationship, not participate in any of the political/religion/moral discussions. It took this week of personal hell to find out just how much a negative impact this has had on me.<br /><br />I am not blaming the forum or its members, I am blaming how I react and deal with things that happen here, so I am just going to stick with the aspects that don't cause me grief.