Re: what to say to teens in-house..
I have had to almost force my kids out of the home (because if you let them return to the nest, even if they say it is for a short recovery time to get back on their feet, they never seem to be able to do it!!)...I will say this, I love my kids to death, and it hurt like heck the first time they moved out, and every time they have to come back and leave again, even if kicking them out on the patooties, it still hurts!!! Had to go through it last night with my younger (24 year old) son. He divorced, lost his job, lost his car, all the things that seem to take a person down teh funnel to despair, started drinking again, and I lethim move back in about three weeks ago. I told him the first requirement was to get a job. He did, worked four days and got a $4/hr raise!! Great, now get a car, and he did...his boss GAVE him one that was sitting in his yard being unused!! Alright, now get a place, but that he didn't want to do. What he DID want to do was to carouse, drink, run with the boys and come home anytime he wanted, but he just wanted a place to "sleep". Wanted to be able to stay out all night or two if he desired, etc...<br /><br />Well, anyone who has read my posts knows what a conservative I am, and I am a Christian and have strict values. I am also raising two of my granddaughters temporarily and am trying hard to plant some much neded values and discipline in their little lives. There was no way I was going to let him come in adn disrupt my home with his ways, which I consider unacceptable anyway, and let these little darling girls see how he was living, and not being able to understand. BEIDES the fact that my wife and I had no privace when he is around, nor did he, so one would think that he would WANT a place of his own.<br /><br />Alright, problem solved...his boss allowed him to move into a trailer he owns until he saves enough cash to rent a place of his own. We provided him with dishes, silverware, blankets, bedding, towels, washcloths, groceries, alarm clock, you name it to make him able to survive in comfort...but you don't think it toremy heart out to see him go? To know he is out there, albeit old enough to survive, but still my flesh and blood...yeah.
