Hope it aint over Iboats

[heycods]

Well maby we go pick up the in-laws tomorrow and move them in with us. Pas 89 mas 78 her health is failing bad, kidneys starting to fail. She has heart trouble and has become a little combative.Pa has lost about 15# now weighs in at about 115 # He cant take care of her anymore, hes worried so much over her hs starting to slip prety bad himself. I dont know how Im going to adjust to these lifestyle changes. Ive smoked all my life, no smoking in the house with ma, I know I need to quit have tried 20 times made it 2 yrs once. Pa up every morning 5am in bed by 8 pm. while wife is at work It will be my job to see that she takes her meds and check her blood sugar ect. Dad Gummit I just dont see my boat getting used much this year. So now yall probably wont have to put up with near as much crap off me and muttly. HAD TO VENT

 

[jims plan b]

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I feel for you I had the MIL here for 10 years she just passed in November ....died in my wife's arms 10 minuets before i got home from work, i found her and the emt's in the house when i walked in at 8:30 in the morning ...Bad way to start the day....We had our UP's and downs with here living here but when it is all said and done i would not have changed a thing. My wife got to spend her life with her Mom and the grand kids grew up with grandma in their lives. cherish the time you have left it will pass quicker than you want it to. It will be the most trying time of your life and the most rewarding.

 

[MYTJC]

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Pray for the lord to grant you the strength to get you through this tuff time. My prayer's are with you and your family. God Bless

 

[brother chris]

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HeyCods,<br />On a side note, You are doing something great! <br />Not everyone would take care of the elderly, in the way you are doing it. I'm proud of you!<br />You may not get to use your boat too much this year, buy you will be making your Pa a VERY happy man. <br />Taking on the burden of your Pa is awesome of you. <br />You deserve a pat on the back.<br />Hats off to you.<br />You will all be in my prayers.<br />Brother Chris.

 

[CJY]

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Heycods, <br /><br />I'm with lucky and his last 2 sentences. Never allow them any thoughts of being a burden. Good luck, it is a wonderful thing you are doing.

 

[scrapper]

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Bravo!! Heycods , You good people!!

 

[heycods]

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Ill never begrudge them being here. The load is on my wife is what I worry about , shes had one heart attact, but being a nurse is going to put the load on her. her mother and all. Ive never had a cross word with either of them, And dont expect to. when we brought up the subject Pa was ready right then, But mas fighting it tooth and nail Dont want to give up her house, her Dr. and church. She is being very verbaly abusive to my wife. That is the hardest part to take for me. I know this is just the symptoms of dementia. She has been rough on pa because he is ready to move down here. We talked about this with them saturday we thought we would give her time to cool off. Wife has to go with her in am to Dr. apointment so were playing it by ear till then.

 

[jtexas]

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Originally posted by scrapper:<br /> Bravo!! Heycods , You good people!!

Took the words right outta my mouth.<br /><br />As far as the fishing goes, remember you got to keep yourself healthy to if you're gonna take care of somebody else, and that includes mental health, which means you might need more not less time on the lake.

 

[heycods]

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well mother in law beat wife to the punch on the Dr.s appointment she went a day early so we dont have a clue what the Dr. said. Well we granted a reprieve, Im still mixed as to whether its right or not. After much wailing and threats and nashing of teeth by mother in law, we left them there. She says they will be fine that what she forgets pa will remember.(bull Pucky) But Pas catching he!! and he agrees with her. She went into a tyrade against my wife, saying "your just trying to get me down there to put me in a nursing home" Nothing was ever said about a nursing home.

 

[levittownnick]

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The only thing I can give you is RESPECT. You and your wife are the kind of people the world needs more of.<br /><br />Peace,<br />Levittownnick

 

[Mark42]

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Heycods,<br /><br />Tell them to behave or you ain't taking 'em out on the boat this summer. <br /><br />And if they're bad... you're taking them out on the boat this summer... hint hint.