Re: Hope and Prayers Please - updated
You are all so right about the better place.
She would not accept her fate up until Christmas, and her significant other would not accept it up until the day she died. This put an extra burden on her mother (81 years old), and an extra load on my wife.
She would allow people to take care of her, and assured everyone that all her papers were in order and in the safe, including titles to her 4 vehicles that were already transferred to other people, along with her wishes for burial, etc.
Well, when we opened the safe, we found the vehicle titles - still in her name; the horses (sold a month ago but the papers are still in her name); several bills for lapsed insurance policies; NO WILL, no attorney's name, no burial info; just a bank book with $147 in it.
My wife is her only surviving child and heir, but we are now in for a minimum of 8 months of probate proceedings before we can put this behind us. It will probably take years, as her 14 acre property is contaminated from a fuel spill that took place 10 years prior to her purchasing it, and is unsell-able, (it is on the federal cleanup list and has been monitored for the last 10 years.
(Please get your papers in order before you die!)
This also means that the property is worth $0, so the mortgage holder will have first claim on all other assets; which would probably bring less than $2500 at auction anyway.
My wife grabbed the photo albums and address books.
She wants to go back and grab a few family mementos like her baby shoes and her grandfathers military medals, and walk away from the place. Let the bank have everything else.
We don't know if she can just walk away - legally, but would sure like to, pending attorney's advice.
Anyway, she was a strong and intelligent woman, Ph.D. in Psychology, more concerned about the animals in her yard than her own well-being. She suffered greatly, and was on unbelievable amounts of pain meds the last couple months.
We disposed of 1512 oxycodone pills, 217 ml of liquid oxy, and 37 fentanyl patches after she passed.
To get an idea of the pain she was in, in her last days she was on 23,000 micrograms of Fentanyl a day, which is about 2 ounces of pure morphine according to the nurse.
She will be missed for sure, but her family and friends are all glad she is no longer suffering.
So much for my ranting, time for bed.
