Dating

brother chris

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Would you date someone who is HepC positive?<br />If your partner, whom you are in love with, came back from the doctors and told you that they were positive, would you dump them because of the disease?<br />They never got it from using drugs or sharing a needle. Lets just say they got it from their last partner.
 

deputydawg

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Hep C is not that contagious. If it goes that far things can be done to be safe. Just have to be careful with body fluids.
 

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I have told this story here before. <br /><br />My Wife "partner" just doesn't sound right. Maybe because of a recent Ouchboy movie! ;) <br /><br />Anyway back in 1990 when giving blood she came up pos for aids. (3 rings) <br /><br />Remember back then it had just hit the radar! People thought you could get it by shaking hands.<br /><br />So the department of health had both of us go in for the full test. (this was not a option back then)<br /><br />Before going in I asked her point blank if she had fooled around. She said nope! And she asked me the same with the same answer.<br /><br />Full test: She shows pos with all nine rings.<br />Me ZIP! <br />Dept of H3ll isn't buying her story.<br /><br />Even suggested that I cut and run. That ticked me off big time. Since I would not<br /> <br />For the next two months we went in once a week to give blood. After 2 months I should have come up pos as we were still doing the wild thing.<br />With each other. (no Hollywood cowboys involved) :D <br /><br />30 days later (3 months total) we had picked new names and were going to be relocated. SSI had been approved. Plus both of us were going to be medically discharged from the military.<br />And Mrs.Link retired from the state.<br /><br />At the time we were making over $200K a year plus being in the military reserves so our retirement would have been over 4 grand a month.<br /><br />Money didn't mean much back then, if you were only going to live another two years! And thats whats aids meant back then.<br /><br />Had to do a edit. See reply to Matt<br /><br />Turned out that Mrs.Link has what the University of Washington calls "Her Special Blood" As it triggers and tests pos for aids. From 1990 to 1998 they would call about every three months requesting another pint of her blood. <br />Guess they finaly got it figured out. <br /><br />Bottem line:<br />She trusted me and I did her!<br />My .02 cents
 

Nos4r2

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Not enough questions BC-I wouldn't leave my wife-to-be if she was hepC pos and only just found out, but I wouldn't start dating someone who I knew was.
 

heycods

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didnt answer poll. Id have to think about that a while. Meby so meby no as my hired hand used to say.
 

FSHKPR

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i agree rubber and the frog. different questions. just met i am out there. been together just found i am staying.
 

mattttt25

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link- what's the end of the story? don't leave me hanging like that.
 

brother chris

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Well, here's the thing. <br />I had this girlfriend about 5 years ago, and she came back from the doctors one day, told me she was HepC positive. <br />Well, needless to say, we went through a hard time together. I went to get checked, the same day she told me about it. <br />All of my friends kept telling me to dump her.<br />After thinking about it for a while and not knowing more info about it, I broke up with her, and she knew why. It was a sad time.<br />We have kept in touch ever since. In fact, we talk on a weekly basis, even see each other weekly.<br />We have always told each other that we still love each other. The only reason we are not together is because of the HepC.<br />Well, now we are talking about getting back together, but I told her that if we get back together, we should get married. She agrees.<br />But here's the thing....all of my friends still do not approve of her and they do not think I should go out with her.(they do not know I have been seeing her, and I pretty much hide it from them)<br />I'm not sure what is going to happen between me and my friends, if I decide to go back out with my ex.<br />They are concerned that I will get hepC, if I go back out with her. <br />I'm not sure what I am going to do. :confused:
 

mikeandronda

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Man oh man........I would stay with my wife no matter what disiese she got as long as it wasnt cheating that gave it to her........Heres my story....I was sick....not real sick.....just under the weather. Low grade fever no big deal.......but it wouldnt go away.....about 3 weeks later still there.....kinda scared now cuz of I heard HIV is like that. Go to Doc take blood tests.....He didnt seem to consirned. Well 3-4 days later wife calls doctor and they give her my white bloodcell count and red count or whatever but no other info.They tell her they want to retest me in a month if I dont feel better......Wife goes on WebMD and looks up posabilities.........It comes back as either some fatal type of blood cancer or HIV......Well I love my wife but sometimes I question her thought process......She calls me up at work on my lunch. I worked at a factory......Tells me what she found out and then I have to go back to my machin and spend the rest of the day thinking about this. Neddless to say I was freakin out. Well I never thought I would pray to have cancer but I figured that would be better then aids and when I got home we talked. She said she didnt care what I had she loved me and would rather spend the rest of our lives together with aids then to spend them apart healthy......Well time went by and I felt better and in truth I was scared to go back to Doc for second test so I didnt show up.....I couple weeks later they called my wife and she set up an appointment..........Well I got up the nerve and went in and the Doc still didnt seem conserned....took another blood test and 3 days later test came back 100% normal.....you see what he then explained to me is there are 1000s of new virus's every year that medical scence has yet to see and because they may happen once and then disapear they Doctors really dont panic....It was just some little virus that went away but....It defined our relationship.......by the way this was the second time she misdiagnosed me with WebMD.....so she was banned from that sight by me. :D first time was a little more funny but distressing none the less. Told me I had scabies but it turned out to be a allergic reaction to the luandry soap........
 

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M&R, that's funny!<br /><br />BroChris,<br /><br />Hey, you love her, she loves you.....how much do you love your friends? How often over the course of your life are they going to take of you when you are sick? See where I am going with this? Go where your heart desires, not where your friends desire. <br /><br />Why not do this: Make an appointment for the two of you to see your family physician. Go in together and discuss the scenario with the Doctor. Find out all about the disease, and what the future holds. There are new treatments being developed all the time. A few years ago Evil Kenivle (sp?) thought he was gonna be dead in a few months because of Hep C. Once you have all the needed information on how to live together with this problem, make plans accordingly. If your friends are really your Friends, they will congratulate you on settling down with the love of your life.
 

brother chris

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Thanks SW...I mean, TLC.<br />I understand what you are saying about my friends. I've thought about that...you are right.<br />I have done ALOT of research on it, and have shared it with her. We both understand what is involved with a relationship like this. Now I have to decide what I want to do. (I think I have already made up my mind :) ) <br />I'm going to see her this weekend and have a heart-to-heart with her about all of this.
 

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Originally posted by mattttt25:<br /> link- what's the end of the story? don't leave me hanging like that.
Sorry about that Matt<br />Was writing it in "Word" for the grammar/spell checker. Then doing a C&P here. Missed a paragraph.<br /><br />Turned out that Mrs.Link has what the University of Washington calls "Her Special Blood" As it triggers and tests pos for aids. From 1990 to 1998 they would call about every three months requesting another pint of her blood. <br />Guess they finaly got it figured out. <br /><br />Link
 

Fly Rod

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:) Well Brother Cris!!! If you love the woman, there should not be any choosing between her or your friends!!!! Are you sure that it is not just liking her alot and your confusing it with love???<br /><br />And I believe that most of them that you call friends are only aquaintances!!!! you can count your true friends on one hand and ya don't need all your fingers to count them!!!<br /><br />Also only you and her can decide because of knowing what ya know about each other!!!! Either go for it or jump ship!!! ;) :cool:
 

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bc,<br /><br />TLC hit the nail on the head - excellent advice. <br /><br />Your friends are just trying to keep you safe. However, they should be helping you make an informed decision, rather than one that makes just them feel good. Do what makes you happy.
 

brother chris

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FlyRod...no, I am not confusing it with "just liking her alot". <br />And that is very true about counting my true friends on one hand. That is sooo true!
 

jtexas

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Bro, what your friends got against her? I mean is she a pathological liar or psyco killer or is it this hep-c thing? Cause if hep-c is all that's stopping you...well, a serious health problem can seriously strain a relationship* and not everybody's cut out for that kind of thing...if you walked I wouldn't think less of you...hold on a second, you broke up once but couldn't stay away? That speaks volumes right there, Bro! But nobody but you can tell ya what's in your heart.<br /><br />I heartily endorse TLC's advice, but my prediction is it won't affect the outcome. Dare I say it...congratulations!<br /><br /><br />*[edit - insert "or strengthen"]<br /><br /><br />[2nd edit:<br />
Originally posted by mikeandronda:<br />...this was the second time she misdiagnosed me with WebMD...
WebMD? Sounds serious, what are you takin for it?<br /><br /> :D sorry, couldn't resist]
 

brother chris

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jtexas, no, she's no liar or psycho. It is pretty much, just the hep-c thing. <br />And yes, apparently I can't stay away from her!<br />I think I am going to take it S-L-O-W.
 
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