SS MAYFLOAT
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My oldest kids (the ones with my 3 grandsons) had the transmission go out on their Dodge mini van. The first thing they wanted to do was bring it to my house for me to fix it. I refused and now I'm the bad guy. I tried to explain that changing the front seal of the transmission may not and is probably not the only thing wrong. SIL is somewhat mechanically inclinded, but honestly he doesn't have a clue about this job.
I just hate working on cars anymore, especially big major jobs. Since I said no, they aren't talking to us. That is somewhat nice, but unfair for the grandkids. Right now they don't have transportation and even expect my wife and I to do all their running. It just ain't right. They are in their early 30's now and still depend too much off others.
Am I doing right by putting a stop to being taken advantage of? I just feel guilty for not helping. I've tried to be there for them always and I think that my own actions may have contributed their dependancy off us.
I just hate working on cars anymore, especially big major jobs. Since I said no, they aren't talking to us. That is somewhat nice, but unfair for the grandkids. Right now they don't have transportation and even expect my wife and I to do all their running. It just ain't right. They are in their early 30's now and still depend too much off others.
Am I doing right by putting a stop to being taken advantage of? I just feel guilty for not helping. I've tried to be there for them always and I think that my own actions may have contributed their dependancy off us.