Got the seals in and replaced. Hopefully this will keep anyone who does this from having the same issues that I had. The seller that I bought the seals from gave me a nice writeup which I followed to a T but it left out some very important steps.
First, from what I could tell, you cannot tap the brass collar in to remove the snap ring until you remove the hydraulic line. The brass collar hits the hydraulic line inside of the cylinder. Once you do remove the snap ring, I dont know how you remove the collar without using the trim pump to push the entire assembly out.... This means you cannot put the front hydraulic line back in since the hole is now blocked by the brass collar that you taped back in. TIP, lightly tap around the outside edge of the collar and NOT the inside edge near the shaft. It will move back in <1/4" or so. Maybe you can remove the snap ring without messing with tapping the brass collar back in... I couldnt. It took me a good bit to remove the snap ring. Ended up using some small picks to get under it and working it out.
So I just sat the hydraulic fitting in the hole and lightly tightened the bolt to hold the line in. BAD IDEA. Leave the front hydraulic line out and put a pan under it or something. Oil will be going everywhere... Evidently whom ever put the plastic spacer inside of the cylinder on mine installed it wrong. It bent over the end of the hydraulic line INSIDE OF THE CYLINDER! Im not sure how its working and how it didnt ruin the little oring where the line goes in but I had a heck of a time getting the line back out and then back in when installing the newly resealed cylinder. I didnt get a photo of that since it made me rather sick, those lines come as a set for $450....
The brass collar that you tap back in and comes out of the cylinder first as two orings inside of it. Im not sure how volvo thought this was a good idea but there is an oring on top of an oring. Once you remove the first one its easy to miss the second one and the new seal WILL NOT go in till its removed.
This is the first oring compared to the new one. I hadnt seen the second oring at this point and was confused:
So here is the plastic spacer that was installed upside down. You can see the nice groove that the hydraulic line cut into it as I used the trim pump to push the shaft out.
How it should be:
Going back together:
When checking the trim fluid, you fill the reservoir up with the drive down. I recommend some sort of small hand pump with a small hose. Trying to use any sort of funnel is brutal. You will make a mess. Run the OD up and down then check the fluid level. It took me 4-5 times of spilling more fluid in the driveway than I put in the trim pump to get it all bled.