Re: boating at night
Yeah like others have said as little light as possible, I even go one step further and have a short person sit in the seat between me and the red/green nav light on the bow, not much you can do with the anchor light, its not that bright but then again on a moonless night it seems as bright as the sun!!
I have Docking lights and at first thought the same as you, headlights for my boat but you quickly learn how they can hurt your night vision even though they are pointed downward, for retrieving they are awesome, light my trailer up even in pretty muddy water, but in open water they are not to be used.
I do carry a handheld 6 bazilion candle power spotlight but its for locating shore or anything else and emergencies only, Caught the kids giving each other sunburns with it once....ONCE.
I also installed blue LED lights under the Gun Whales and various other places to help with lighting up the floor of the boat so people can move around a bit and that helps a lot, maybe even spice the mood up a bit for you and the wife.... But they are never in the direct view of me as I drive only the glow from them, they can be adjusted for brightness and I have found that to be a pretty nice feature.